This is the story of a girl and misogyny

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I watched the Britney Spears documentary this week. I’m still shaken up by it. Britney was a huge part of my high school experience. I remember seeing Crossroads. I remember seeing her in concert and singing along to “Drive Me Crazy.”

I had no idea how much manipulation and misogyny she was subjected to. I just listened to the music and went on my way. All the while, she was poked and prodded and misused.

The “Framing Britney Spears” documentary is on Hulu now. I highly recommend watching it. But, if you want a round-up of some of the most…

I know, right? I was surprised, too.

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Are you ready to talk about your sex drive?

If you’re reading this, you are probably thinking your sex drive could be higher. Or maybe you have a super high sex drive and you are here to gloat.

There were so many things that I didn’t know about my sex drive. Like, why is it so high in my thirties? (Spoiler alert: this is totally a thing.)

So, let’s dive into this together.

Women may have their highest sex drives in their 30s and 40s.

Good news, ladies. We peak later in life. Can I get a round of applause?

Our sex drives are very much influenced by testosterone. (We’ll get to…

She may be a ‘Bad Feminist,’ but she is certainly a feminist icon

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Roxane Gay is an author, professor, and according to her bio, she wants a tiny baby elephant. I first found her through her book of essays, Bad Feminist, and then went down the rabbit hole of her amazingness.

As someone with an eating disorder, I connect to Roxane Gay’s language about her body and her compulsive eating. She speaks truth to experiences of bodies who are not the culture-approved small.

She’s also black, bisexual and sex-positive.

Feminists everywhere, listen up. Here’s a round-up of Roxane Gay quotes you need in your life. (Then, when we’re done, go read her books.)

On Being a Feminist

This is how to not let weird moments kill the vibe.

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Sex can be weird.

Let’s be honest about this, okay? Think about some of the most cringe-worthy moments you’ve had during sex. For example, when I lost my virginity, my boyfriend had told me he was bigger than most.

He was not wrong. It hurt like hell.

We can have awkward sex moments with a brand new partner or with someone we’ve been with for years. I used to think these moments would kill the mood — or worse — the potential future of a relationship.

But, the good news is awkward moments are all about the way you react…

Here is what I want her to know.

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I’ve been thinking a lot about my future lately.

Last year, I think many of us had a hard time thinking about what the future might look like. I was scared. I didn’t know if my loved ones — my immunocompromised dad especially — would even have a future.

But now, there’s a shred of hope. A vaccine on the way.

So, I am starting to think of what tomorrow might look like. I’m picturing my wedding. I’m imagining life as a full-time writer.

And now, I’m writing letters to my future daughter.

I have been writing a lot of…

First and foremost, stop worrying so much about the future.

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I spent most of my twenties as a single lady.

They were both the best and hardest years of my life. I had all this time for self-discovery, exploring my passions, making money, and basically just doing what I wanted. But — at the same time — it could be very lonely and frustrating.

I look back on these years and I wish I had appreciated them more.

If I could sit down at a happy hour with my single self, these are a few things that I would tell her.

*Note: I was single pre-pandemic, so you will find…

Last week, I watched porn for the first time.

It was definitely on the tamer side — at least I think so — and featured a husband coming home from work to a very naked wife. They then had super passionate sex.

If you want a whole play-by-play of my thoughts on porn, you’re going to want to read this one.

I have a lot of questions about other stuff, too.

Questions like:

It’s Thirsty Thursday, everybody.

Cheers, sexy people!

And why you should get the heck out if he isn’t.

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Here’s the truth: we need a partner who wants to see us succeed.

As a very ambitious and entrepreneurial person, I needed someone who was going to want to listen to me rant late into the night about my dreams. And — as luck would have it — I found that man.

He’s pretty cool. Not only does he support my dreams, but he responds to those dreams.

When I share my ambitions with him, he rises to meet them. He suddenly wants to exercise more and talk about his side hustle ideas, too. When I share my ambitions, he…

She is just another female celebrity who can’t win.

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By David Shankbone — Shankbone, CC BY 3.0,

Let’s talk about aging in Hollywood. Specifically, women aging in Hollywood.

We know this is a zero-sum game for them. They’re damned if they get plastic surgery and damned if they don’t. Either way, the media will report on how they look “unrecognizable.” (My thoughts on that toxic word over here.)

This week was just another reminder of how hard it is to be an aging woman in Hollywood. And, if it’s hard for them, imagine how it is for everyday women.

Here is what happened with Demi Moore’s face.

We know Demi Moore: Ghost, St. Elmo’s Fire, Striptease. This woman is as legendary as they come.


Bring on the new roaring 20s in these spicy locals.

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We’re not going to talk about 2020. *cringes*

It’s time to start looking to the future. The vaccine is here. There’s an end to the chaos in sight. (Although, we know that it’s going to take longer than we hope.)

So, the question is — how are we going to celebrate when things get “back to normal?”

I mean, is anyone else just exhausted from having sex in the same place all the time? Or, for those of you who are single in quarantine, are you ready to just f*ck like crazy?

I think we’re in for a sexual revolution…

Gigi Love

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