Here’s how I felt about it.

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It’s true: I am in my thirties and I have never watched porn before.

This weekend, that changed.

When my boyfriend was out of town, I decided to find out what all the fuss was about. I found a female-friendly video. It was in the “passionate” category and the premise of the video was that a man comes home from work and his wife/girlfriend is naked and ready to go.

And… they f*ck.

Normally in my solo sessions, I listen to audio porn. But seeing the real thing? Well, that was a completely different story.

I’m ready to share my feelings and whether or not I’ll watch more porn in the future. …


You might as well tell her to smile, too.

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By Toglenn — Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=81401494

Here we go again.

Zendaya — a 24-year-old singer and actor — did an interview with GQ recently where she opened up about how being shy has affected her. She explains that she’s really comfortable with her own friends and family, but has trouble opening up to strangers.

Seems pretty relatable to me.

The reason that this article got so much attention is because of the following quote:

“I remember my stylist was like, ‘You come off kind of cold. People think you’re mean because you don’t talk,’ when really I just was too nervous.”

Let that sink in for a minute. …


Ready to find out how bangable you are?

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I was getting dressed the other day — in a sweatshirt and yoga pants — and asked myself, “Am I fuckable?”

I wasn’t sure. I mean, what makes someone fuckable anyway?

Google was quick to guide me in the right direction.

According to Urban Dictionary, fuckable means any one of the following:

Hmm, seems pretty straightforward to me.

So what makes someone so hot that you want to sex them up right then and there? …


“I’m sorry for bothering you with my emotions.”

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The older I get, the more that I realize men don’t know how to handle a crying woman.

The other night, I was crying while taking down Christmas decorations and my boyfriend was hovering around me, totally lost about what to do. He held me for a while, then after, he kind of wandered around the house before eventually hiding.

This is not the first time a man has been confused about my emotions.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not hating on men here. Part of this struggle is how they’re wired. Part of this is because they were shamed out of their own tears for their whole life. …


Wait, there is more to life than the big O?

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Are you wanting to have more sex this year? Amen, my friend!

Here is the deal: sex is pretty spectacular.

I mean, when you hit that moment of orgasm and all the pleasure surges through your body, wow. There’s nothing else like it.

But what I rarely ever think about — and I’d bet you don’t either — is what else sex is doing for me.

There is more to sex than just feeling good.

Um, what?

I know, it sounds like I am talking crazy. But I have some truth bombs for you.

Sex is more than just an orgasm, and that’s actually a really awesome thing.

Sex is good for connection

Most often, when I’m craving sex, I am not chasing an orgasm. I am chasing that connection with my partner. …


Hint: it’s not just because they are jealous.

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DannyB Photos, CC BY 2.0 <https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0>, via Wikimedia Commons

When news broke about Olivia Wilde and Harry Styles, I braced myself.

I’ve been writing a lot about women in the media as of late, and I am starting to notice some terrible patterns.

To sum it up, there is a sh*t ton of sexism still happening.

Am I surprised? Not at all. I mean, look at our country right now. We’re waking up to the sexism and racism and deep-rooted, dangerous beliefs that are embedded in our systems.

That’s why I was not shocked to see the world was not exactly thrilled that a 36-year-old, newly single mother of two is now dating a mega-star who is ten years younger than she is. …


The sexiest dates can happen right under your own roof.

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I never imagined that my “date nights” would take place in my place of business, aka my house, aka the place where I am 24 hours a day.

I really missed going to restaurants… at first.

But now, I am actually a huge fan of stay-at-home dates.

For one, it saves a sh*t ton of money. Not to mention that we can both drink and not have to worry about how we’re getting home. Plus, with stay-at-home dates, the bed is right in the other room.

Dinner, conversation, sex, goodnight!

In all fairness, I’m at an advantage because there are no kids in this house. I don’t need to arrange childcare or any of that business. So, if you’re in that boat, I understand if you want to throw something at me right now. …


Careful… these could lead to a strong, healthy relationship.

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You don’t need to kiss in the rain. You don’t need to organize a flash mob proposal. You don’t even need to run dramatically through an airport to confess your love.

Contrary to popular belief, real love is not like a romantic comedy.

I know… I took it hard, too.

As someone in a serious relationship, I’ve figured out that some of the most romantic gestures are the least sexy of them all.

Now… don’t get me wrong. These may lead to sex — and have for me a number of times — but you’re not going to find them in the newest Reese Witherspoon movie.

Here’s how to get hella romantic in unsexy ways. …


I would take these back if I could.

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Photo by Allef Vinicius on Unsplash

Yikes, I’ve picked some stupid fights before.

The other day, my boyfriend and I fought about what to order for dinner. It was the dumbest waste of time. (It also may have been period-induced.)

So, it got me thinking.

I have been in a lot of fights before that I really regret.

Some of them were my fault. Some of them were his fault. They’ve all been with different boyfriends at different times of my life.

But, let’s review.

I wish I never would have picked a fight about our sex life.

He told me “not tonight, babe.”

And I — feeling humiliated — stormed out of the bedroom to sleep on the couch.

I picked a fight with my boyfriend because I wanted sex more than he did.

Night after night of wanting him, I’d finally had it. But instead of talking to him like an adult, I felt vulnerable and decided to get mad about it instead. …


To everyone’s surprise, it was the best decision for our relationship.

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I bought a house this year.

As a single woman who saved years and years, this was a huge accomplishment. I wanted to stop renting and put my money to work for me. And, luckily, the interest rates were low with the pandemic so it was the ideal time.

I was house shopping for a couple of months. I looked at houses that were way out of my price range, houses that were way too big for me, and houses that should have been condemned.

And then — as the story normally goes — I found the perfect one.

It was this beautiful house on a corner lot with an incredible garden. It was in a neighborhood with a lot of friendly people. And, you know, wood floors. …

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